The book I’m currently reading is about a girl navigating her senior year and tryin g to find out the real meaning of feminism. In “The Feminist Agenda”, Jemima Kincaid is known at school as the hardcore feminist. Always arguing for her point and doing what she feels is right, she sees herself as the role feminist as well. However, her narrow mindset of how a feminist should be inadvertently leads to herself being sexist.
Jemima’s best friend, Jiyoon, is a Korean American. They are joined at the hip. But one day, after Jemima finished criticizing other girls clothes, Jiyoon points out that what Jemima just did was to degrade women and shame them for their clothing choice.This made me realize, that sometimes when we are so dedicated to something, we make these ideals that we expect it to be like. In Jemimas case, she was so focused on what a feminist should be like, she inadvertently insulted and tried to fit other women into her ideals. Just like in our society, women are encouraged to be themselves and be free but there is always an underlying stereotype that we have to be Just like in our society, women are encouraged to be themselves and be free but there is always an underlying stereotype that we have to be feminine and perfect.
Knowing this, it has shifted my values a little. Whenever I feel like judging someone, I stop myself. I do this because it is not my place to and that everyone has their own preferences and that’s fine. Just like Jemima, I also have to learn to try not to fit my own standards into someone else.
